Heidi does address that somewhat, pointing out that many people will refuse help when it's offered, even to the point of getting angry about it. I think the best approach is to just make a *general* offer to be helpful with people you know. Don't wait until there's an immediate need. Don't play favorites. Don't expect anything in return. And actually follow through with it when someone takes you up on your offer! <> 43111d7c89e13ccb6cac2645551908ba862d9344760fa951aada51321b95e246